Sharon Tohthe nice guy plea
August 24th 2006 12:47
I found this post my friend wrote to me about 2 years ago, it presents an interesting perspective of what its like to be a 'nice guy' :
It’s amazing that dickheads can get girls. Actually, now that I think of it, it’s not that amazing. They are dickheads at heart, but to meet girls they lavish their undying love. It's a charade.
They act nice, friendly, and they listen… until they get into what they’re after. Their prey thinks they are in love with them, however when they realize what dickheads their predators really are, they pretend like the dickhead is really nice inside. The girl tries to change the dickhead into a nice guy, but dickheads will always be dickheads.
She gets upset and goes to the nice guy to complain about the dickheads. But she claims to love the dickhead… now this is where the theory begins.
She doesn’t want to look like she is easy so she wont dump the dickhead right away, instead she will stay with the dickhead. Girls are idiots. They don’t realize that the nice guy has been there all along. He never had to pretend to be a good guy to get girls because he is naturally like that. However, girls don’t see it for some reason or another.
They look at the nice guy as a friend, a trusted companion to whom they can tell their sad story to about their dickhead boyfriend. But the nice guy isn’t that naïve. He was trying to score with the girl he listens to all along. The problem is that since he is a nice guy he keeps listening. Since girls get attached to things that pay attention to them, they think of the nice guy as a friend.
Since girls get attached to things that pay attention to them, they think of the nice guy as a friend. A friend.
They don’t say, “Oh he’s a hot cunt” or “I want to have his children” about the nice guy, they just want the emotional support. When they get the emotional support from the nice guy, they don’t need it from the dickhead.
So it pretty much evens out for them. The nice guy gets the shit end of the stick while the dickhead gets all the action. I am starting to wonder if being a nice guy is really the route to take to get action…
Perhaps another reason why girls fall for the dickhead is because dickheads ignore the girl they are with. Then women wonder, “Why isn’t he paying attention to me?” so they explore why. They poke and prod and get closer to the dickhead.
They start to get easier with each attempt to get closer. The dickhead finally says, “I’ve let this beauty dangle long enough, time to tap this ass”. It is then he puts on his charade and the girl feels like she has won him… even though all she has won... is a dickhead.
Once you have gone down the path as a nice guy or a listener you can’t turn back. The girl will always go after the dickheads because there are always nice guys there to listen.
Once you realize that you are a listener you cant do anything about it… just pack up and close shop. There is no way you will get into her pants… ever.. unless she realises it. There is and never will be a situation where the nice guy will get the girl he has a crush on.
It just doesn’t work like that. The girl wont “come to her senses” and realize what an dickhead her boyfriend is like in the movies… instead she will just go after another dickhead.
Women complain that there are no nice guys in the world. Right. They are obviously not looking hard enough because there are nice guys everywhere! Girls aren’t looking for nice guys… they say they are but they’re not. They are looking for the perfect dickhead, but there is no such thing as the perfect dickhead. All in all, the nice guy gets the shift.
To all the girls out there with boyfriends that don’t treat you with respect, that don’t listen to you, and that don’t care about you I say this; look next to you. The guy that has been standing next to you the whole time is the guy you have been looking for. He is what you want your dickhead to be like. He knows more about you than you know about yourself… because he has listened to it all
It’s amazing that dickheads can get girls. Actually, now that I think of it, it’s not that amazing. They are dickheads at heart, but to meet girls they lavish their undying love. It's a charade.
They act nice, friendly, and they listen… until they get into what they’re after. Their prey thinks they are in love with them, however when they realize what dickheads their predators really are, they pretend like the dickhead is really nice inside. The girl tries to change the dickhead into a nice guy, but dickheads will always be dickheads.
She gets upset and goes to the nice guy to complain about the dickheads. But she claims to love the dickhead… now this is where the theory begins.
She doesn’t want to look like she is easy so she wont dump the dickhead right away, instead she will stay with the dickhead. Girls are idiots. They don’t realize that the nice guy has been there all along. He never had to pretend to be a good guy to get girls because he is naturally like that. However, girls don’t see it for some reason or another.
They look at the nice guy as a friend, a trusted companion to whom they can tell their sad story to about their dickhead boyfriend. But the nice guy isn’t that naïve. He was trying to score with the girl he listens to all along. The problem is that since he is a nice guy he keeps listening. Since girls get attached to things that pay attention to them, they think of the nice guy as a friend.
Since girls get attached to things that pay attention to them, they think of the nice guy as a friend. A friend.
They don’t say, “Oh he’s a hot cunt” or “I want to have his children” about the nice guy, they just want the emotional support. When they get the emotional support from the nice guy, they don’t need it from the dickhead.
So it pretty much evens out for them. The nice guy gets the shit end of the stick while the dickhead gets all the action. I am starting to wonder if being a nice guy is really the route to take to get action…
Perhaps another reason why girls fall for the dickhead is because dickheads ignore the girl they are with. Then women wonder, “Why isn’t he paying attention to me?” so they explore why. They poke and prod and get closer to the dickhead.
They start to get easier with each attempt to get closer. The dickhead finally says, “I’ve let this beauty dangle long enough, time to tap this ass”. It is then he puts on his charade and the girl feels like she has won him… even though all she has won... is a dickhead.
Once you have gone down the path as a nice guy or a listener you can’t turn back. The girl will always go after the dickheads because there are always nice guys there to listen.
Once you realize that you are a listener you cant do anything about it… just pack up and close shop. There is no way you will get into her pants… ever.. unless she realises it. There is and never will be a situation where the nice guy will get the girl he has a crush on.
It just doesn’t work like that. The girl wont “come to her senses” and realize what an dickhead her boyfriend is like in the movies… instead she will just go after another dickhead.
Women complain that there are no nice guys in the world. Right. They are obviously not looking hard enough because there are nice guys everywhere! Girls aren’t looking for nice guys… they say they are but they’re not. They are looking for the perfect dickhead, but there is no such thing as the perfect dickhead. All in all, the nice guy gets the shift.
To all the girls out there with boyfriends that don’t treat you with respect, that don’t listen to you, and that don’t care about you I say this; look next to you. The guy that has been standing next to you the whole time is the guy you have been looking for. He is what you want your dickhead to be like. He knows more about you than you know about yourself… because he has listened to it all
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Comment by bitterlee
but he's prolly a dickhead to sum otha girl that's the nice girl for him
girls aren't that stupid... we know when guys are the nice guys.. but please note... we know you're nice.. and we're still not interested. sorry matey.
Comment by Anonymous
our bf's aren't dickheads either!
Comment by Aallecks
"Girls are idiots. They don't realize that the nice guy has been there all along"
I see! Girls are idiots because he got stuck with the crappy end of the gene pool. Odds are he has a shit house personality, he doesn't have
looks to make up for it & most importantly, SHES NOT ATTRACTED TO HIM. Ohh, he was listening to a girls problems, so now she HAS to sleep with him.
Oh woe! Life is so unfair.
I hate to say, but your friend isn't all that nice afterall. He thinks you are a moron & victimises himself to manipulate someone into being retarded enough to go out with him.
Tell him to work on his personality, actually BECOME A NICE GUY & maybe, just maybe a girl will come along that doesn't think he's discusting.
I think your friend discribed HIMSELF perfectly:
"They act nice, friendly, and they listen… until they get into what they’re after"
Comment by Anonymous
"They look at the nice guy as a friend, a trusted companion to whom they can tell their sad story to about their dickhead boyfriend. But the nice guy isn’t that naïve. He was trying to score with the girl he listens to all along."
Perhaps if it was a relationship your friend was interested in, as opposed to "getting into her pants", he might have a greater chance at meeting someone. I agree with Aallecks, I think he described himself by stating that the "dickhead" acts nice and whatnot until they get what they're after. Since when was listening to a woman foreplay? Perhaps it is because it is the lack of sexual assumption on the part of a woman that she goes to a man for a sympathetic ear. The last thing she needs is some "nice" (read: slobbering pervert) guy posing as a friend who's thoughts are of sex.
If there's all this honesty floating about, why on earth does he not tell her, nicely, that he has feelings for her if they're so damned irrepresible?
And god forbid he should think a little more highly of women. If he's walking around feeling sorry for himself and assuming that all women are "idiots", then perhaps he should take a long hard look in the mirror and change his attitude. Contrary to your friend's beliefs, women can smell an arsehole from a mile off. True, some women incorrectly believe that they can change a man's behaviour and these issues are certainly something that she should address. However, your friend should know (what with all this supposed "listening" he does - seriously, how much can a person listen to another person when they're having flashes of erotic scenes in their brains??), that ultimately women need something more in a partner than someone who will be constantly "nice". Nice guys are great friends, because they are not particularly stimulating on an emotional or sexual level. Nice guys tend to be passive. Nice guys often aren't partners, they're "agree-ers", often without their own opinions. That's not being a partner, that's tagging along.
I think that your friend should be a little more assertive with his feelings. There are better ways to let a woman know he's seeking a romantic relationship with her than being an emotional sounding board. Perhaps if he said something about his feelings she might stop and think about how she feels about him, with a positive outcome. Men are often idiots for missing their opportunity with a woman for not saying something.
Comment by Anonymous
Girls, just pick one you like. They're all dickheads so simply choose what level of retard you can tolerate. I like the funny, sensitive poor losers who can clean up after themselves. Because they can clean up after themselves, they're funny and i don't need their cash because I earn more than most men. I just put up with the fact that they're thick as shit, can't sort their lives out and spend all my money. Of course, if you prefer a red hot stud with loads of money you might have to tolerate the fact that he's banging your sister and can't clean the bathroom.
Or the other option is to select a couple with different traits. Just don't get caught.
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Comment by Jason Z
The blog speaks for itself, and goes to show just how twisted the extent is of some female's minds, in terms of them reversing a scenario to their liking so that it makes sense. This is a common flaw that a lot of women possess.
Women have a predisposed tendency to automatically rearrange ideas or things in unlogical orders, simply to make it appear or be right as it is fit to their mind, and not necessarily to the nature of something itself.
For instance. If you have a deck of 100 plastic magstripe cards, and lets say the top card has a "notch" in the corner. If she thinks it looks better with the "notch" in it, she might assume that all the other 99 cards ought to be notched as well, and she will go ahead and cut off all the other edges on the cards to make those notches.
Just like on TV, when Lucy brings over her cards to Ricky, he explains to her that the top card with the notch was meant to be the "sample/demo" card, and now all the other plastic cards are unuseable because of the notched part which destroyed a part of the magstripe, rendering them useless.
So, what this blog represents is this:
Typical of the Westernized, Feminist Woman, who in turn has no desire to be pleasing or giving to a Man whatsoever, and in turn, expects to be have.
The reason why Women prefer assholes, is due to an inherit flaw in their logic that they let overcome their reasoning, under a governing principal of physics.
Take, for example, the temperature of water.
After running your hands after warm water for a while, it begins to feel cold, as your body adapts to the temperature. When this happens, if you run cold water first, and then resume the warm water, the warm water will feel "hotter". But, in actuality, it only creates the illusion of being hotter, as the temperatures did not actually change.
In essence, women love to receive abuse or torture in relationships to put more of a better limelight on the times "when he is nice, he is really sweet".
Today's majority of Women have no Morale, compassion, or care for guys... Men have been very repressed from expressing themselves or any of their emotion, at the cost of seeming "pleasing" to Women. They have become submissive and spineless, and now the Woman has sought control and dominance over the man, which violates the law of nature, and destroys culture and society.
The Modern, Westernized Woman "just wants to have her way" and her way only, at the cost of what any Man feels, or needs. These type of Women have forgotten where their strengths reside, which are to be more quiet, harmonious, subtle strengths, rather than agressive, dominant strengths as with the Man.
A Woman who is wise, who wishes to be at peace with herself, will submit, confide and console to her Man, under the condition of using her silent wisdom and understanding of what conditions warrant ethical submission to him, under his ability to be one who offers security and protection in the relationship. A Woman who does not know how to make such judgement, should not enter a relationship, period.
She will not have the desire, nor will to conquer or seek control over the man. Respective of her feminine characteristics and nature, she will feel at home with herself, and do her best to create a network of great influences in her life that are complimentary to all, and any children she may have (if she does).
The Man should be the one excersizing proper authority in assuring that she is properly protected, physically, mentally and spiritually. A wise Woman will choose a Man based on Purposeful Authority, rather than Authority rooted from Insecurity and Jealousy.
Women these days have preferred unhealthy submission, as opossed ot healthy submission, as a lot of them have low-self esteem.
I feel bad for our current generation of Men and Women, has they have been doomed seriously with creating more enmity for each other, and hopelessly trying to invent the 3rd gender.
To the Men who do suffer from the current generation of Women, fear not. The Women who think as they do today - as the feminist - will realize once they turn 50, that they become grumpy, unhappy, estrogen-lacking bitches who made nothing successful of their lives, and realize what troubles they have brought on for themselves.
While I would agree that there are an equally amount of miserable Men available for Women these days, the conditioning and ways that the destruction is caused are much different in Men vs. Women.
For example, with a Man who is Narcisstic for Power and Control, he usually uses Absurd Scenarios or seeks Obsession in executing the Power and Control to cater to his needs.
When a Woman gets her hand on Power and Control, she ends up using it in even more PERVERSE and silently destructive ways than a Man.
The solution here is not to choose and decide "which gender is better" or which one is the problem. The solution is to revert to the way society and mother nature intended us to be, and accepting that we must obey the laws of physics and nature, and to not tamper with our roles that make the very beauty of a relationship between a Man and a Woman.
If anyone wishes to discuss this further, I encourage you to e-mail me at jasonzad@rcn.com
Thank you.
Sincerely,
Jason
Comment by Anonymous
Comment by the poor nice guy
I really appreciate that there are people who stand up for the nice guys; cause it isn't easy to be one.
You really care about a girl; you talk to her all the time laugh with her,.... Being a part of somebody's life is amazing; but a nice guy who is in love with a girl it's like a dillema:
- Mostly I just am to affraid to tell my feelings toward a girl..
- When I put myself out there mostly they are surprised and always thought you were just a good friend; and they always say that they just want to be friends...
- If that isn't the case; if you try to put yourself there there always is some handsome rude guy who was first...
It's sometimes just depressing to be the nice guy
but I guess you can't change your character that's a shame cause the nice guys will always lose