Sharon Tohwhen guys try too hard
October 13th 2006 08:17
isn't it such a turn off when guys try too hard?
its just ugh.
everything i thought i wanted in a guy is presented to me. Someone full of surprises, takes you out to nice places to eat, thinks of you all day, sticks to his word, does things out of niceness.. But its just too much too soon..
We all want something we don't have.. thats what makes us happy.. when it dangles in front of us for some time, we try to catch it for a while and when we do, we're as happiest as can be. Its the chase. We all love the chase admit it or not.
when guys try too hard its just a turn off. it devalues them.. well i feel that way.. its hard to appreciate the things they do for you, i think the only real way of truly appreciating it is if you have to work for it.
=) oh and a note.. and a small update.. guys never change.. people never change.. no matter how hard you try to change them.
its just ugh.
everything i thought i wanted in a guy is presented to me. Someone full of surprises, takes you out to nice places to eat, thinks of you all day, sticks to his word, does things out of niceness.. But its just too much too soon..
We all want something we don't have.. thats what makes us happy.. when it dangles in front of us for some time, we try to catch it for a while and when we do, we're as happiest as can be. Its the chase. We all love the chase admit it or not.
when guys try too hard its just a turn off. it devalues them.. well i feel that way.. its hard to appreciate the things they do for you, i think the only real way of truly appreciating it is if you have to work for it.
=) oh and a note.. and a small update.. guys never change.. people never change.. no matter how hard you try to change them.
| 321 |
| Vote |
subscribe to this blog
Comment by TonyK
AFL Central
NBL News
Comment by Anonymous
Comment by katyzzz
Photography Tips
MS Paint Art
Comment by Crafty
Interesing take on this. You dont want to feel smothered i guess? But what is too much? Is there a defined black and bold line? What are the signs that you are doing to much? Im treating my girlfriend with respect, and treat her as often as i can with either dinners, movies or whatever comes up? I've never seen signs that this is not welcome.
Comment by Chantal
My current boyfriend, who I plan to marry, is one of the nicest guys you'll ever meet. I guess cos I love him, it's not so bad and I just tell him to stand up for himself and not cater to my every whim. He jokingly is an arsehole from time to time because it's what I need. I told him I want him around for ever and if he's too nice I may lose interest!
Human being's are a very complex creature!
Crafty, I think you'll be fine! Sounds like your a great boyfriend, just make sure you have a good laugh too!!
Comment by Barracuda
Plus, every girl always wants the "bad boy".
Oh, and I just cannot help it but below is a blatant push for more readers *sheepish grin*
COME AND READ DATINGBARRACUDA!
Comment by Crafty
Dont worry i will still get the hang of this. after every breakup i become a little harder/bad boy(ish)
Eventually i will hit the balance point and get my hapy ever after
Comment by mlxo
Comment by Jason Z
People confuse utilizing Intellectual Challenge to base self-worth and worth in another, instead with a game of using very unintellectual ideas to try to validate someone's worth. You hate the game so much, that you "love" it and wish to play it anyway.
And, little do most girls know, but the statement
"If you love something, let it go, if it comes back to you, it was meant to be"
is actually a Satanic Law and Philosophy of the universe.
Comment by Anonymous
Relationship is a special sanctuary, and a place to be REAL and feel at home while you are alive on the planet - not another arena for gaming someone and being insecure and on guard and anxious and micro managing and putting on a pretense
Treating a loved one like a trainable animal does work because of our nature and desires and fears, but that doesn't mean it has honor or that one should do it.
Not too different than threatening people with a weapon or your fist is in our nature and it works and makes people react so that you can control them, but that doesn't mean it has honor or that one should do it.
Comment by Anonymous
Comment by love hurts