Sharon Tohwhen love becomes obsession
July 20th 2006 12:13
When theres nothing going on in your life and someone of interest drops by, you tend to do insane things for that person in hopes that they will notice you.. Thats usually the case of men, those who do the chasing. At first they seem like they're really into you and would do anything just to please you.
Then... after you give in to the niceness of it all, you fall for them. They know you've fallen, they know how much you like them, they take a step back and have a breather. The sudden loss of interest alerts you. You become the one who will do crazy things for them.. Then they start realising your faults..
When a man has reached that stage, allow them to step back, as far as they want.. don't bother chasing after them.. don't guarantee that you'll still "be around" by the time they step back in. A guy like this is not worth being with. You'll always find someone better to be with, and that's guaranteed.
Do not confuse love and obsession. Love lasts a lifetime, obsession is temporary.
If a man loves you, he will always try to win you, he will never feel as though he has won you over. He will perform small acts of kindness all the time.
If a man is obsessed with you, he will try to win you for a short period of time, then back off and watch you chase him with delight. Or he will become possessive, and try to take over your life.
So if you're in a relationship, think hard to yourself.. Do you really love them? or are you just obsessed about them? Are they treating you the way you deserve to be treated?
Then... after you give in to the niceness of it all, you fall for them. They know you've fallen, they know how much you like them, they take a step back and have a breather. The sudden loss of interest alerts you. You become the one who will do crazy things for them.. Then they start realising your faults..
When a man has reached that stage, allow them to step back, as far as they want.. don't bother chasing after them.. don't guarantee that you'll still "be around" by the time they step back in. A guy like this is not worth being with. You'll always find someone better to be with, and that's guaranteed.
Do not confuse love and obsession. Love lasts a lifetime, obsession is temporary.
If a man loves you, he will always try to win you, he will never feel as though he has won you over. He will perform small acts of kindness all the time.
If a man is obsessed with you, he will try to win you for a short period of time, then back off and watch you chase him with delight. Or he will become possessive, and try to take over your life.
So if you're in a relationship, think hard to yourself.. Do you really love them? or are you just obsessed about them? Are they treating you the way you deserve to be treated?
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Comment by Alan
^_^
You'll look back 6 months from now and just laugh at all your blogs and letters and tears thinking about how melodramatic you made everything out to be!
And i'll be here to tease the fuck outta you!
hahahaha jokes
Cheer up buttercup! Things will get better.
I promise.
Comment by julnhi
haha true true. i suppose that's why me and my hubby are still so strong.
so girlfriend now aye?
Comment by Heej
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Hello...
That's an interesting distinction between love and obsession...
You're last line made me think... "deserve to be treated"...
I don't know how I would define that for myself...
I always thought that when you're in love with someone, it's about selflessness - doing all that you can for that person... These days I'm confused about that word; I'm not even sure if it exists, since every action we take - in one form or another has to benefit ourselves, otherwise that action would not be taken...
So, if you're really in love with someone... how should you "deserve to be treated"? Wouldn't it enough if they LOVED you back... Cause I could think I deserve to be treated like a god, since I would treat you like a god... but would a relationship work if both parties felt that way?
(Hmmm wondering if that made sense here...)
-Heej-
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